第2课

2.  学会沟通交流

        2.Learn to communicate

我们生活在班级、学校、社区中，希望自己得到他人和群体的认同与接纳。

We live in classes, schools, and communities and want to be recognized and accepted by others and groups.

但是，不同的成长环境使人们在行为习惯、生活方式、看待问题的立场等方面存在一定的差异，对某些问题可能有不同的看法。

 However, different upbringing makes people have certain differences in their behaviors, lifestyles, and positions on issues, and they may have different views on certain issues.

活动园

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年级篮球联赛上，五（3）班输掉了比赛。

In the grade basketball league, five (3) classes lost the game.

班上几个同学放学后说起了各自的看法.

 Several students in the class talked about their opinions after school.

我们明明没有犯规，裁判却吹我们犯规。

We obviously didn't commit any fouls, but the referees blew us out of the game.

我觉得输球是裁判不公造成的。

 I think the loss was caused by the unfairness of the referees.

我们技不如人。

We're not as good as the others.

如果我们技高一筹，投篮再准一些，也许比赛不会输。

 If we had been more skilled and shot better, maybe we wouldn't have lost the game.

针对同一场篮球赛，同班同学的看法为什么不一致呢？

作为观众，我觉得咱们班的配合不好，球员拿到球只想着自己投篮。

As a spectator, I think our class is not cooperating well, and the players only think about shooting the ball themselves when they get the ball.

有不同看法时，只坚持自己的观点而不考虑他人，就容易产生矛盾或冲突。

When there is a difference of opinion, it is easy to create conflicts or contradictions by only insisting on our own views without considering others.

理性对待分歧，会让我们有合情合理的看法和思考。

 Treating differences rationally will allow us to have sensible and reasonable views and thinking.

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梁毅和吴云飞是好朋友，周末经常一起下象棋。有一次，发生了下面一幕。

Liang Yi and Wu Yunfei were good friends and often played chess together on weekends. One time, the following scene happened.

下棋就是娱乐，你总是想来想去，磨磨蹭增，耽误时间。

Playing chess is entertainment, you always think about it, dawdle and delay.

下棋就有输赢。，我只有走一步想三步，才能赢棋呀！

When you play chess, you win or lose. I can only win if I make one move and think of three moves!

假如你是梁毅或吴云飞，请依照下面的问题深入思考。

If you are Liang Yi or Wu Yunfei, please think deeply according to the following questions.

你会对这种分歧采取什么样的态度？

What would be your attitude toward this disagreement?

你的态度对朋友关系会产生什么影响？

What effect does your attitude have on friendships?

你的态度对自已的棋艺会产生什么影响？

What effect does your attitude have on your own chess game?

你的态度对自己的心情会产生什么样的影响？

What effect does your attitude have on your mood?

真诚坦率很重要

Sincerity and frankness are important.

对于不同看法，采取“简单拒绝”或“一味接受”的态度都

不利于问题的解决。

The attitude of "simply rejecting" or "just accepting" different views is not conducive to solving problems.

It is not conducive to the resolution of problems.

真诫坦率的沟通可以有效地化解矛盾，促进和谐。

 Honest and frank communication can effectively resolve conflicts and promote harmony.

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学校马上就要召开秋季运动会了。

The school is going to hold the autumn sports meeting soon.

王老师说我们进入高年级了，这次运动会开幕式的班级展示就由我们自己决定。

 Mr. Wang said that we had entered the senior class, and the class display for the opening ceremony of this sports meeting would be decided by ourselves.

在入场式服装问题上，有的同学提出不穿校服，因为全校都一样，无法突出班级的特点；

On the issue of the entrance ceremony costume, some students proposed not to wear the school uniform because the whole school is the same and cannot highlight the characteristics of the class;

有的同学认为，运动会不同于艺术节，整齐最重要

  some students thought that the field day is different from the art festival, neatness is the most important.

当与同学意见不同时，你通常的想法、做法是什么?

When you disagree with your classmates, what do you usually think and do?

换位三部曲

Three parts of transposition

稳定情绪

Stabilize emotions

观点不一致没关系，但各执己见容易引发矛盾。

It's okay to disagree, but each opinion can easily lead to conflicts.

冷静思考

Calm thinking

为什么他会有这样的想法呢？

Why would he think this way?

寻找合理点

Finding a reasonable point

站在他的角度看，觉得他的看法也有道理。

Put yourself in his shoes and think he has a valid point.

在“换位三部曲”的引导下，现在你想出的解决方法是什么？

What is the solution you have come up with now, guided by the "three steps of transposition"?

可能有怎样的结果？

What are the possible outcomes?

真诚的交流需要尊重他人表达自己观点的权利。对待不同的看，我们可以不赞同，但是，要让他人自由而完整地表达，这样有于我们了解他人的意见。

Sincere communication requires respect for the right of others to express their views. We can disagree with different views, but it is important to allow others to express themselves freely and completely so that we can understand their opinions.

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面对不同的数学解题方法，班里的同学说法不一。

When faced with different math problem solving methods, the class had different statements.

何大海的解法好。我也有自己的解法，不过没他的好，我还是不说了吧

He Dahai's solution is good. I also have my own solution, but not as good as his, I'd better not say it.

我不清楚苏长河为什么打断我的讲述，我觉得自己的解

法也不错。

I'm not sure why Su Changhe interrupted my narrative, and I think my solution

The method is also good.

我这样做是最简便的。

It's easiest for me to do this.

我是数学课代表，大家都应该听我的

I'm the math class rep. Everyone should listen to me.

课代表凭什么说自己的解法最简便，

Who is the class rep to say that his solution is the easiest?

别以为自己成绩好就了不起。

 Don't think you are great because you get good grades.

身处这样的场景，你会如何表达自己的意见呢？

In such a scenario, how would you express your opinion?

问题

problem

不敢表达

Dare not express

我的想法有可能在他人眼中是幼稚的、可笑的。

There is a possibility that my thoughts are childish and ridiculous in the eyes of others.

我不敢表达真实的想法。

 I am afraid to express what I really think.

解决办法

Solutions

克服这种担忧，增强自信心，勇于表达自己的真实想法。

Overcome this worry, increase your self-confidence and be brave enough to express your true thoughts.

表达不清

Poorly expressed

我的真实想法是“这样的”，但是，表达出来的意思就变成“那样的”

My real thought is "this way", but the expression becomes "that way".

解决办法

Solutions

养成写下自己想法的习惯，并且不断练习，提高表达能力。

Get into the habit of writing down your thoughts and keep practicing them to improve your expression skills.

角度不同

Different angles

我和他人所站的角度不同，看法会有所不同。

My perspective will be different from that of others.

解决办法

Solutions

要知道这种情况难以避免，要学会接受不同人对同一事物看法的差异。

It is important to know that this is difficult to avoid and to learn to accept differences in the way different people see the same thing.

交流中产生分歧时，我们可以坦诚地向对方提出意见，平和

冷静、友好地与对方交流。

When differences arise in communication, we can give our opinions to each other frankly, and communicate with each other calmly。

这样我们才能在解决问题的过程中获得成长，收获友谊。

We can communicate with each other calmly and amicably. In this way we can grow and gain friendship in the process of solving problems.

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遇到学习难题的王小雨发现同学分析问题的思路与自己不同，自己又不理解别人的思路。

Wang Xiaoyu, who encountered a learning problem, found that her classmates analyzed the problem differently from herself, and she did not understand others' thinking.

在请教同学时，她遇到了不同的态度。

She encountered different attitudes when asking her classmates for advice.

态度1

这么简单的问题你都没弄懂？我的答案是对的，我没时间给你讲了，拿我的答案看吧。

 Attitude 1

You didn't even understand such a simple problem? My answer is right, I don't have time to give you a lecture, take my answer and read it.

态度2

你的思路确实与我的不同，我给你讲一遍我的思路，如果不

懂可以再问我。

Attitude 2

Your thinking is really different from mine, I'll tell you my thinking once, if you don't understand you can ask me again.

态度3

我.....

Attitude 3

I .....

要求别人与自己保持一致，可能的后果是什么？

What are the possible consequences of asking others to be consistent with you?

假如王小雨向你请教，你会采取什么态度？

If Wang Xiaoyu asked you for advice, what attitude would you take?

在交流中，如果总是试图改变他人，会给自己和他人制造许多烦恼。

In communication, if you always try to change others, you will create a lot of troubles for yourself and others.

如果总是抱怨他人不合作，却从未想过他人持不同意见的原因，就难以进行正常的交往。

If you always complain that others are uncooperative, but never think about the reasons why they disagree, it is difficult to have a normal relationship.

尊重他人与自己的不同，也是尊重自己。

Respecting others who are different from yourself is also respecting yourself.

与人沟通讲方法

Communicate with people about the method

与人沟通，要勇于表达自己的意见，沉默不语可能失去沟通的机会。

Communication with people, to express their opinions, silence may lose the opportunity to communicate.

双方只有在准确表达自己意见并了解对方意见的基础上，才可能进一步沟通。

 Both sides can only communicate further if they express their opinions accurately and understand each other's opinions.

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学一学假如你和朋友约好一起去博物馆，他却临时说有事不能来。对此你可能会有如下表达。

Let's learn if you and your friend are supposed to go to a museum together, but he says he can't come at the last minute. You may have the following expressions for this.

表达句式

Expressions

以“我”为主语的句式

Sentences with "I" as the subject

以“你”为主语的句式

Sentences with "you" as the subject

可能的表达

Possible expressions

我有点失望！

I am a little disappointed!

你真不守信！

You don't keep your word!

可能的结果

Possible results

允许对方解释并使友谊不受伤害

Allow each other to explain and keep the friendship intact

两人争吵起来

Two people quarrel

试一试假如你和体育委员钱小明因为运动会项目报名的事发生争吵，

Try it out if you and Qian Xiaoming, a sports committee member, had an argument about signing up for a sports event。

本来你的强项是短跑，他却让你报跳远。

Originally your strength was sprinting, but he told you to sign up for long jump.

你会怎么跟钱小明说？参考上面表格，完成下列活动。

 What would you say to Qian Xiaoming? Referring to the table above, complete the following activities.

“我”句式

"I" sentence pattern

可能的表达

Possible expressions

可能的结果

probability

“你”句式

"You" sentence pattern

可能的表达

Possible expressions

可能的结果

probability

表达有方法

There is a way to express it

每个人都有发表自己意见的权利，表达时要自信。

Everyone has the right to express their opinions, and they should be confident in expressing them.

说话前做好准备，明确观点，充分说理。

Be prepared before you speak, clear your point of view, and fully reason.

表达是为了让对方能理解和接受自己的意见。说话要态度诚诚，语气平和，音量适中，有理有据，可以适当辅以手势。

Expression is to make the other party understand and accept their own opinions. Speak with sincerity, calm tone, moderate volume and reasonable evidence, and can be supplemented with gestures appropriately.

与人沟通，还要学会倾听。这样做既是良好修养的体现，也能让我们准确理解和领会对方的想法和目的。

To communicate with others, we should also learn to listen. This is not only the embodiment of good culture, but also allows us to accurately understand and understand each other's ideas and goals.

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生活中与别人主动沟通时，我们可能会遇到对方的下列反应，同时自己的理也会受到影响。

When we actively communicate with others in our life, we may encounter the following reactions from each other, and at the same time, our own reasoning will be affected.

他左顾右盼，向窗外张望，是不是不想听我再说了？

He looked around and looked out of the window. Didn't he want to hear more from me?

他面无表情，对我说的话既不肯定也不否定，我感到很无趣。

He had no expression on his face. He neither affirmed nor denied what I said, which made me feel very boring.

他总是打断我的话，我都不想接着说了。

He always interrupts me. I don't want to go on.

对方的反应及其对我的影响。

The other person's reaction and its influence on me.

你是否遇到过类似的困惑？请根据自己的经验来补充。

Have you ever encountered a similar confusion? Please add according to your own experience.

倾听要耐心

Listen patiently

身体前倾，目光专注。

Lean forward and focus.

边听边观察，从对方的表情、手势和语气中获取信息从对方的发言中把握关键内容，做好回应的准备。

Listen and observe, get information from the other person's expression, gesture and tone, grasp the key content from the other person's speech, and be ready to respond.

用点头等方式表示你的认同或礼貌地提出自己的看法。

Show your approval by nodding, etc. or offer your opinion politely.

与人沟通，即使未能达成共识，也不要互相指责。我们可以结合具体问题进行讨论，给对方充分解释的机会。

When communicating with others, even if they fail to reach a consensus, don't blame each other. We can discuss specific issues and give each other a chance to fully explain.

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班会上，同学们围绕“沟通交流与我们的同学关系”的话题，发表了自己的看法。

At the class meeting, the students expressed their views on the topic of "communication and the relationship between our classmates".

同学之间有分歧时，如果我是对的，我就要当着大家的面指出别人的错误。

When there are differences among students, if I am right, I will point out others' mistakes in front of everyone.

同学犯了错，我不会当着全班同学的面指责他，毕竟人人都有自尊心。

Students made a mistake, I will not blame him in front of the whole class, after all, everyone has self-esteem.

如果你总是当着大家的面指责我，我们肯定做不了好朋友。

If you always criticize me in front of everyone, we can't be good friends.

沟通交流与我们的同学关系

Communication with our classmates

你和同学沟通后，如果意见仍然为达成一致，你会如何处理。

After you communicate with your classmates, if you still reach an agreement, how will you deal with it.